HOW DATING MR. WRONG LED TO MY MR. RIGHT
"Though dating him seemed like a relationship that was doomed from the start, I became aware that the emotional wins in my life had strengthened my respect for myself in undiscovered ways."--Suzette Vearnon
- Compromise may be a part of relating, but self betrayal is not.
- After I worked through my feelings of aloneness and grief over being "single" again, I realized that my attraction to him was unfinished business with my dad.
- I needed someone who wasn't just emotional but who had emotional intelligence.
- I no longer had to waste time hoping that things would get better over time. I no longer had to cling to someone because they paid attention. I no longer had to take whatever life gave me because I might not get any other offers.
Hi, I'm Suzette Vearnon. On December 27, 2014 on my 55th birthday, I did something that statistics would not have predicted. I got married to the most wonderful man. It wasn't my looks, my charms or my savvy dating that did it. It was that after 49 years of being on this Earth it was no longer okay for me to stop being myself in my relationships with men. With this realization came a startling revelation. I didn't know how to not perform for a man's affections.
You see, I was taught that love = performance. So it was difficult for me to grasp that a man could love me without my attempts to accommodate him. I needed help. I hired a coach. It was a painstaking process; but in time, I found my rhythm. I discovered my super power wasn't in what I did. It was in who I was. The journey was about finding my Enough Factor. And it is my purpose and passion to help you to find yours.