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We saved the last dance for these speakers, our "Fab Five"

Jeremy Roadruck – Best Selling Author & Kung Fu Master

Only Boys Want A Mom.  A Good Man Wants A Partner.

Best-Selling Author, Kung Fu Master, Pan-American Champion, former member of the military, former corporate wage slave, and former factory worker, Jeremy Roadruck has been through many seasons and adventures in his life. Today, he’s a speaker, author, teacher, and consultant to families, couples, teens and kids helping to improve communication, understanding and appreciation by teaching people how to play games worth winning and share stories worth telling. Jeremy was also in several dysfunctional relationships, and didn’t get married until he was 38, and his daughter was born when he was 39

In our energetic interview, Jeremy talks about:

  • how his habit of over-giving strongly correlates to feelings of lack and inadequacy
  • the biggest gift a man can give to a woman
  • an expanded definition of a good woman and why good men crave her
  • the way good men show up for women they’re interested in
  • the power women hold that only good women truly recognize and respect
  • how a woman who does everything in the relationship is running game on herself

…and so much more.

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

Jeremy Roadruck -Best-Selling Author & Kung Fu Master

Malcolm Martin – Certified Celebrity Trainer & Host of Black Fathers Go Further Podcast

What Fathers Know That Daughters Need To Know

Malcolm Martin, born and raised in Brooklyn, NY moved to Los Angeles 5 years ago.  He’s been a certified celebrity trainer since 2000 to the likes of John Legend , Sam Smith, India Arie.  He’s still with John since 2005. Malcolm has extensive travel around globe from John Legend touring. He became a first time father at the tender young age of 47 to a 5yr old daughter named Madison, who’s is mastering 3 languages while attending a French Immersion school. From fatherhood, he developed a passion to spread the word good and bad of black fatherhood through his new podcast “Black Fathers Go Further”.

Malcolm co-parents his daughter with his ex.  He’s learned a lot as a result.  He talks about:

  • how the types of fathers compare to the 5 categories of a hurricane
  • the nature of a man
  • how he and his daughter’s mother were able to rise above their differences to put their daughter’s wellbeing first
  • what he’d want his daughter to know about men
  • little things women should look for
  • his definition of a good woman and what about her stops a man in his tracks

…and so much more.

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

Malcolm Martin – Certified Celebrity Trainer & Host of “Black Fathers Go Further” Podcast

Jay Jacobs – I Hate Average Podcast

After I Do:  The Importance of Not Losing Each Other In the Day-To-Day

Jay Jacobs is an author and host of “I Hate Average Podcast” where he interviews various entertainers and entrepreneurs to tell their unique stories.  If you were to ask him though.  He’d tell you he’s an average guy who strives to spotlight ordinary people doing extraordinary things.  He’s a husband and father residing in the Bronx, NY. 

The strength of this interview was Jay’s honesty.  His, I believe, is a silent frustration of men when the priorities of the day-to-day of marriage makes them feel last on the to-do list.  Jay shares:

  • a rude awakening about marriage he wasn’t prepared for
  • how feelings of neglect and obligation led to him seeking attention outside his marriage
  • how the actions of “a good woman” (his wife) changed his trajectory and reinvigorated his love and his commitment
  • the motivation behind his podcast, ” I Hate Average”
  • the super power his wife had that validated his value in the relationship

…and so much more.

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

Jay Jacobs – Author & Host of “I Hate Average” Podcast

Dennis Sumlin – Core Confidence Coach & Podcast Host

“I Just Want To Give and Receive Love”

Dennis R Sumlin is a speaking and confidence coach, podcaster, and the founder of Core Confidence Life, an artist development and promotion service. With a long background in performing arts, education, and personal development, Dennis helps men transcend inner limitations and anxiety so they can be the confident men they desire. Born and raised in New York City, Dennis’s mission is to help people gain a deeper understanding of themselves and elevate their unique talents, as he continues his own journey of growth.

In this insightful interview, Dennis reveals:

  • inner blindness that shows up in poor relationship decisions
  • why men don’t want to talk about their personal struggles
  • misconceptions men have about what it means to be a man
  • anger in men and the need for it to be worked out of them
  • the power of good women and why men need them
  • how doing things for a woman comes naturally when he really cares about her

…and so much more.

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

Dennis Sumlin – Core Confidence Coach & Podcast Host

Robert Kandell – Best Selling Author & Host of TuffLove Podcast

Women, Don’t Stop Being Powerful

Robert Kandell is an entrepreneur, philanthropist, best selling author, and has taught over 10,000 students in 400 workshops, coaching sessions and lectures how to live an authentic, unHIDDEN life.

He is a veteran of many worlds and has spent time in corporate America, a start-up, and built an international 8-figure business based on relationship, intimacy and sexuality. He currently teaches and lectures within the US and internationally and runs a successful consulting firm helping small businesses to become marketable and profitable.

He is the host of the highly successful podcast, TuffLove and author of the recent Amazon #1 Best Seller – unHIDDEN – A Book for Men and Those Confused By Them.

Robert doesn’t mince words.  With his pragmatic approach to relationships, he addresses:

  • the lies that keep us from having more intimacy, connection and love
  • the secret about men that a lot of women don’t know
  • the shame that is running our relationships
  • misconceptions women have about men
  • the impact of the Me Too movement on men
  • ways men and women can have better communication with each other

…and so much more.

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

Robert Kandell – Best Selling Author & Host of “TuffLove” Podcast

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Maurice “Moe” James – Relationship Builder & Thought Reset Architect

The 5 F’s You Must Talk About Sooner Rather Than Later
ENCORE INTERVIEW FROM 2018

Maurice James is doing relationships differently! Maurice is a Relationship Builder, Author, Speaker, and Spiritual Life Coach. He helps spiritual-minded singles & unmarried couples understand the purpose of relationship & how to do them differently. These are individuals and couples who have experienced abusive and toxic relationships.

He’s a Thought Reset Architect. He helps those whom he serves 1) Change their relationship mindset 2) Understand their relationship’s purpose and 3) Do relationships differently and Founding Member – IMPACT (International Membership of Professional Advisors, Coaches & Trainers)

In his dialogue with me, Maurice shared:

  • Why acknowledging where you are and what you’ve done is not enough
  • The biggest hindrance to thriving relationships for men and women over 30
  • The difference between having a purpose and having a dream
  • The 5 F’s: grown up conversations men and women need to be having now else they will come up later…and it won’t be good

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

Maurice James – The Relationship Builder

Bruce Muzik – Relationship Repair Expert & Founder of Love At First Fight

Love At First Fight: From Power Struggle to Mature Love
ENCORE INTERVIEW FROM 2018

Bruce Muzik is a romantic and has always been deeply fascinated with human behavior, particularly the bond that occurs between people in committed relationships.

Fast forward 20+ years, Bruce’s fascination has evolved into Relationship Repair Expert, giving couples the tools to stop fighting and start connecting with one another.  His TEDx talk garnered over 3 million views!  His empathetic coaching style encourages couples to discuss their fears and transform their relationships. Committed partners can turn to Bruce for the knowledge, tools, and support to make sure their love goes the distance.

In his dialogue with me, Bruce shared:

  • Why repairing the areas of conflict in your relationship tend to build stronger connections
  • What you are fighting about is not because of a failure to communicate
  • Why the initial Infatuation Stage of a relationship is the most immature, infantile form of love
  • What is necessary to grow up our expectations of relationships

…and much more

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

Bruce Muzik – Relationship Repair Expert

King Charles Smith – Radio Personality and Relationship Coach

The Miseducation of A King
ENCORE INTERVIEW FROM 2018

King Charles has lived life! From foster care, gangs, drug addiction and incarceration, he has been through literal hell yet he has risen from the ashes and lives with passion for his new-found life.

He hosts a weekly internet radio show and has a Facebook following of 12,000 and counting. His message is to inspire in all areas of life.  From marriage/dating, grief, gangs, drugs, molestation, broken homes, all topics where hope can be fostered into seemingly hopeless situations.

King Charles does not shy away from any topic.  Neither does he shy away from the hard questions and the even harder answers.

In his dialogue with me, Charles shared:

  • What you must do to find yourself when you have nothing to go on
  • Ways a woman can recognize a King who is actually living it, not just talking it
  • A huge problem in today’s society between men and women
  • The real indication of maturity

…and much more

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

King Charles Smith – Radio Personality and Relationship Coach

Elvin Perez – Relationship Expert + Love and Alignment Coach for Men

How Do You Want To Feel Right Now and How Do You Make That Happen
ENCORE INTERVIEW FROM 2018

Elvin Perez guides his clients through their journey of self discovery and empowerment and teaches men how to heal their past so that they can design a more conscious future while being the most authentic version of themselves in the present.

He uses love and laughter to disrupt thought and behavior patterns that are keeping men stuck and preventing them from having the life and relationships they desire due to fear, anxiety, depression, shame, guilt and insecurity.

Elvin enjoys a good cup of coffee, people watching and Netflix binging with Allison, his wife and coaching partner.

In his dialogue with me, Elvin shared:

  • The challenges when transitioning from working together to romancing together
  • The question that looms in the background, “We failed at this before so how are we going to make this time different?”
  • What it means to live a conscious life
  • How he helps men see the good man they already are by healing what keeps him from showing up

…and much more

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

Elvin Perez – Relationship Expert + Love and Alignment Coach for Men

Ray Doktor – Clinical Psychologist & Practitioner in the Healing Arts

Conscious Man or Mature Man–Who Do You Prefer?
ENCORE INTERVIEW FROM 2018

Dr. Ray specializes in relationship coaching, couples coaching, intimacy and sexuality issues, dating advice, and life coaching and career paths. His hybrid relationship coaching style combines Western and Eastern techniques. In a session, he might combine mind techniques, Tibetan bowls, light healing, and breathwork. He often gives you audio recordings and exercises to take home. Many clients have had breakthroughs in a single session.

Dr. Ray has shared the same stages with Marianne Williamson, Bruce Lipton, and Eckhart Tolle. He has appeared on the E Channel, HBO, and KCAL 9 Los Angeles and has been quoted in and written articles for Psychology Today, Los Angeles Times, Men’s Health, and Santa Monica Daily Press. You might have also heard him on Playboy Radio, LA Talk Radio, or Talk America Radio.

In his dialogue with me, Dr. Ray shared:

  • What happens when a man is not aligned with his purpose
  • The definitions that need to change of what a life partner would look like right now
  • How high achieving women are taught to be with achievement but aren’t taught to be with love
  • The celebration of you that the conscious man is waiting to be a part of 

…and much more

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

Dr. Ray Doktor – Clinical Psychologist

DAY THREE

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Barry Selby – Relationship Attraction Expert, Speaker and #1 Bestselling Author

Powerfully Successful,  Powerfully Feminine:  The Successful Single Woman’s Guide to Balance and Love (Part One)
ENCORE INTERVIEW FROM 2017

The Love Doctor is in the house!  That’s who Barry Selby is to family and friends.  To strong, successful single women, he is an Executive Coach and Relationship Attraction Expert, helping women leaders find balance and stop short-changing their love lives.  Barry’s heart and passion is to empower successful single women to embrace and own their authentic feminine power and attract the best in their men!
 
His specialties are purpose discovery, clarification and direction; inspiration of inner alignment and spiritual truth, clarification of gender and masculine/feminine qualities and strengths; relationship building and healing; motivation from within; experiential learning; team building; authentic expression; and more.  In recent news, his #1 Best-Selling book 50 Ways To Love Your Lover is receiving high praise and helps men and women to drop from their head to their heart.

 In his Part One dialogue with me, Barry takes us behind the mask to:

  • The inherited programming from parents that plays out subconsciously in our dating choices
  • The seduction of narcissistic relationships and the entrapment that follows
  • How to tell if you should walk away or try to fix your relationship
  • The evolution of masculine and feminine:  from the Codependent Model to Sexual Revolution to Feminist Movement
  • Why a woman in her feminine is 10 times more powerful than a woman in her masculine
  • How to handle endings without assuming or doling out blame

…and much more

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

  • Barry Selby Business Facebook Page
  • 50 Ways to Love Your  Lover: Powerful Principles for Passionate & Richly Rewarding Relationships filled with Deeply Fulfilling and Juicy Romance! Book
  • Barry Selby Official Website

Barry Selby – Powerfully Successful,  Powerfully Feminine:  The Successful Single Woman’s Guide to Balance and Love (Part One)

Barry Selby – Relationship Attraction Expert, Speaker and #1 Bestselling Author

Powerfully Successful,  Powerfully Feminine:  The Successful Single Woman’s Guide to Balance and Love (Part Two)
ENCORE INTERVIEW FROM 2017

The Love Doctor is back for Part Two!  Barry Selby closes out the summit by going deeper into self love, the power of of feminine energy and the clarion call for women to take their proper place as leaders in their homes, their relationships and their jobs.   
 
And Barry has a heart-felt, unexpected surprise for women.  Check out his #1 Best-Selling book 50 Ways To Love Your Lover.

 In his Part Two dialogue with me, Barry takes us behind the mask to:

  • Rebuilding self love after a narcissistic relationship
  • Why we look for love outside of ourselves and the deception of it
  • The true definition of self love, byproducts of self love and how it is fundamental to living life in a healthy way
  • A deeper dive into healing the wounds of successful women who still carry the emotional baggage of past relationships
  • The key to a healthy “power couple” relationship
  • The new clarion call for women to step up

…and much more

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

  • Barry Selby Business Facebook Page
  • 50 Ways to Love Your  Lover: Powerful Principles for Passionate & Richly Rewarding Relationships filled with Deeply Fulfilling and Juicy Romance! Book
  • Barry Selby Official Website

Barry Selby – Powerfully Successful,  Powerfully Feminine:  The Successful Single Woman’s Guide to Balance and Love (Part Two)

Chris Richardson – Author, Speaker and Radio Talk Show Host

A Culture of Masks:  From Man Up, Suck It Up, Dry It Up To Showing Up
ENCORE INTERVIEW FROM 2017

Known to many as Mr. Real Talk and Mr. Positive, Chris Richardson is a respected and sought after Relationship Strategist, Best Selling Author, Dynamic Speaker and Radio Talk Show Host. He is the author of the bestselling book, Can We Talk? A Journey Towards Having a Healthy and Lasting Relationship.

Chris was a former Sergeant in the United States Marine Corps and proudly protected and served his country during Operation Desert Storm.  It was not long after Chris recovered from the heartache of divorce that he realized that as a Marine he was trained how to kill a man, but not how to LOVE a woman. Upon receiving this revelation, he became relentless in his quest to share with others the significance of understanding their history and the importance of loving themselves.

In his dialogue with me, Chris takes us behind the mask to:

  • How men are trained to “man up”, “suck it up”, “dry it up,” but not how to show up in love
  • The importance of accountability in your own life.
  • How to take your experiences, not as your truth but as opportunities to make you better
  • Where men buy their make up and why a woman needs to know that.
  • Differentiating the man looking at you from the man looking for you.
  • The nonnegotiable of a relationship.

…and much more

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

  • Chris Richardson Author Facebook Page
  • Can We Talk? A Journey Towards Having A Healthy & Lasting Relationship Book
  • Chris Richardson Official Website
  • Real Talk with Chris Richardson, Blog Talk Radio, Dial In Number: 619-924-0869

Chris Richardson – A Culture of Masks:  From Man Up, Suck It Up, Dry It Up To Showing Up

DAY TWO

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Dr. Undrai Fizer – Spiritual Teacher & Jazz Pianist

ENCORE INTERVIEW FROM 2016
Against My Own Heart:  How more good women have been destroyed by fools pimping as kings

Undrai Fizer enjoys life as an author, spiritual teacher, and accomplished jazz pianist. He is the founder of KAIROS, Inter-Global; an educational center for spirituality, potential development, and personal discovery. Fizer is also a commissioned Goodwill Ambassador with United Nations Inter-Faith Initiative of iChange Nations. He is also founder of the publishing company Divine House Books/UrbanWORLD Press.

Spiritual Leader, Jazz Pianist and commissioned Good Will Ambassador, Dr. Undrai Fizer unveils the perception of Good and Bad Men in terms of culture, relationship, and long-lasting happiness. His perspective dispels the perception of secrets, replacing the untold with a difference of thought. King, Prince, or Fool?  

In his insightful interview with Suzette Vearnon, Dr. Fizer breaks down the codependency that causes abuse to integrity and purpose and calls for evolutionary standards.  Find out:

  • How a man’s title of King, Prince or Fool can be impacted by the spirituality of a woman.
  • The difference between Sensuality and Sexuality and how this is key to connecting with the opposite sex
  • Why believing you can’t live without him is not evidence of being in love
  • How moving from codependency to interdependence can feel like you’re not in love anymore!

…and much more

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

  • Dr. Undrai Fizer Facebook Page
  • Dr. Undrai Fizer Business Facebook Page
  • Dr. Undrai Fizer Website
  • “The Kairos Institute App, from The App Store or Google Play
  • The Excuse-Less Life Book

Dr. Undrai Fizer – Spiritual Teacher & Jazz Pianist

Matthew Coast – The Commitment Coach

ENCORE INTERVIEW FROM 2016
What’s Stopping You From Meeting “Mr. Right”?

Dating was never an area that Matthew Coast was naturally good at. He had to go through serious trials, mistakes, and massive relationship failures along the way. Eventually, he started connecting the dots and friends started coming to him for advice.  Now, Matthew Coast helps strong, independent women meet quality men and get into committed, lasting relationships.

In his insightful interview with Suzette Vearnon, Matthew gives us the answers we have all been anxiously waiting for:

  • The relationship perspective that destroys every relationship whether you’re a man or a woman.
  • Dating and relationship behaviors that repel authentic guys
  • Men want commitment but the painful truth that women don’t understand or refuse to accept 
  • Insider tips that most men don’t want to tell you because they don’t want to hurt your feelings, but women need to know

…and so much more, plus other nuggets about men, how they think and what they are looking for in women!

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

Matthew Coast – The Commitment Coach

Troy Spry – Reality Expert

ENCORE INTERVIEW FROM 2016
Teach Me How to Love: “Learning To Love Is Something You Have To Invest in.”

Troy Spry is a certified life and relationship coach and “Reality Expert”. Troy has had the pleasure of writing for celebrity matchmaker Paul C. Brunson, has had his work featured in JET Magazine Online, and was chosen to be a guest blogger for the Steve Harvey Act like a Success Conference. He is a dating expert and contributor for DatingAdvice.com, DigitalRomance.Com, VixenDaily.com, and RealBlackLove.com.

In his insightful interview with Suzette Vearnon, Troy defines the Kingly transition we should all contemplate:

  • Stop searching for the one — be the one
  • What you have acquired in life doesn’t qualify you as a first round draft pick for a good man
  • A heart of service is essential in our romantic relationships
  • The Interdependent Skills everyone should master if they wish to have fulfilling relationships

…and so much more, plus other nuggets about men, how they think and what they are looking for in women!

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

Troy Spry – Reality Expert

DAY ONE

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Bishop Charles Johnson – Pastor, Author & Successologist

ENCORE INTERVIEW FROM 2015
Don’t Rush It…Give It Time And He’ll Show You Who He Is

Mr. Charles W. Johnson, was born and raised in a military home with strong moral beliefs. Being the son of a retired Sergeant Major and an Apostolic Pastor, it was instilled in him at an early age to strive for excellence without excuse.  Charles attended Winston-Salem State University until his passion for leading led him to opportunities that would take him to new heights.

Unable to stray from his spiritual upbringing, he began to lead in his church and has matriculated to Sr. Pastor of his own flock and shortly thereafter consecrated Bishop for a nationally recognized religious organization based in Durham, NC.  With his company, Mountain Movers, Inc., Charles offers coaching, seminars and public speaking for the next generation of passionate leaders, entrepreneurs and executives.

Prior to the summit, I asked women this question:  “If you had a chance to sit and talk to a man who was going to be honest with you and that you could trust. What would you ask him?”

A few of those questions were: 

  •  What was it about me that you found attractive the first time we met? (paraphrased)
  • What do men want to convey to a woman when he’s talking to her and then he adds, “I’m a God fearing man?” Why does he present that?  What the heck does that mean?
  • How long should I wait before having sex with a man?
  • How can I tell if a man has a good heart, good character?  How would I recognize that in someone I’m dating or considering dating?

…and so much more, plus other nuggets about men he shared in between!

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

Bishop Charles Johnson – Pastor, Author & Successologist

Luis Santiago – Matchmaker & Relationship Coach

ENCORE INTERVIEW FROM 2015
Be Open To Possibility

At the time of our interview, Luis Santiago had been studying the dynamics of men and women for the last 20+ years. His own journey of self-discovery, truth and love inspired him to help others through their positive transformation process. He was the first Male Relationship Coach to be hired by Three Day Rule, the official matchmaker for Match.com. Luis was also voted “Best of the West Matchmaker”, on NBC’s show, The Match Off.

In our conversation, Luis discussed: 

  • Our number one drive is connection
  • Why he believes you don’t end up single unless you choose to be
  • How statistics can be in your favor, even if the odds seem small
  • Why having made a lot of mistakes qualifies him to coach others in their relationships

…and so much more, plus other insights about dating and mindset he shared in between!

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

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Luis Santiago – Matchmaker & Relationship Coach

Tem’Ti Sahu Ra – Relationship Advocate

ENCORE INTERVIEW FROM 2015
Fall In Love With His Lifestyle

Host of the Meet My Types Show, Tem’Ti is a lifestyle and life purpose coach based in the Atlanta area. Apart from being the Creator and Matchmaking Director at MeetMyTypes.com, he is also the weekly host of ‘Renaissance Relationship Therapy with Coach Tem’Ti,’ on SourceRadioNetwork.com and covers a wide range of relationship issues including, loneliness, infidelity, emotional imbalance, personal cultivation and sexual energy.

Tem’Ti continues to answer questions women submitted prior to our interview, offering his unique perspective.  He clarifies:

  •  The difference between what an evolved man would find attractive versus an unevolved man
  • How to tell if a man is engaging in flirty banter or is being condesceding of you
  • Why women need to have a broader definition for what makes him a good man
  • How to tell if your man has the capacity for evolution
  • How you get the energy of past relationships out of you

…and so much more, plus other nuggets about men, how they think and what they are looking for in women!

Speaker’s Updated Contact & Resource List

Tem’Ti Sahu Ra – Relationship Advocate

"You don't need everybody, just the right somebody."

Your Organizer and Host

 

Suzette Vearnon is A Relationship Solutionist with a MusicMath Approach to Dating and Relating.  She started the summit after 6 women participated in the pilot of her inaugural Enough Virtual Workshop.  As the ladies worked on becoming their best relationship selves, Suzette contemplated a resource she could provide that would be the natural next right step for them.  She reasoned that two things were essential for thriving relationships:  (1) Doing the work to heal ourselves and (2) Learning how to recognize healthy in men.

At first, Suzette thought she would simply have a good man that she knew to address the women on a conference call, but before long she was researching men of diverse backgrounds, cultures and relationship experiences.  Struck by her tenacity and intrigued by the concept, man after man expressed a sincere interest in contributing her empowerment effort.  Hence, You Asked? Good Men Answered! was born.