About Your Host

Hi, I'm Suzette Vearnon.  On December 27, 2014 on my 55th birthday, I did something my Inner Critic would not have predicted.  I got married to the most wonderful man.  It wasn't because I was perfect!  It was because I was me!  The same me who was told I was not enough at times and I was too much at others.  I struggled for most of my adulthood because of it.  Oh how I could have used someone who could unlock for me what was such a mystery, that I was enough.

That's why I'm so excited about this podcast.  I get to give to you what I didn't get.  And because of that, it won't take you 55 years to get it right!   But if it has, it's  not too late.  Let's make sure that you don't spend one more moment not knowing that you are worthy, you are worth it, you are enough!!

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E7: Can you afford to date your expectations?

Taking his virtual seat at the podcast table is none other than Dating and Relationship Commentator and Atlanta native Troy Vaughan. In this episode, old school meets new school as Troy and Suzette offer their unique perspectives on the question, "Can you afford to date your expectations?"  Listen as Troy makes his debut as co-host, giving a man’s perspective on some controversial issues about dating and relationships while bringing to the table viable solutions and advice.

About Troy

Troy Vaughan is a rising persona in Atlanta, quickly becoming a notable speaker and entrepreneur. Pragmatic, electric, and relatable, Troy’s energy and point-of-view on topics germane to divorce survivor-ship and transformation, dating communications, entrepreneurship, and thriving with a chronic illness has made him a promising motivational speaker and thought leader. A former patient of St. Jude’s, he is a native of Memphis, TN; holding a B.A. from Morehouse College as well as an MPH from Morehouse School of Medicine. His catch phrase “Achieve with a Vengeance”,  a message of un-yielding determination and staunch self-efficacy in the face of adversity, is both inspiring as well as galvanizing.  He is the co-founder of a widely growing organization and online community, RING|SIDE, where men and women enter the ring to debate issues like chronic singlehood, marriage, and divorce.

In this episode, Troy talks about

  • How he got interested in dating and relationships
  • The issues and dysfunction men and women experience in relationships
  • How the old school gender roles are destroying the possibility of deep and loving relationships
  • What, for him, is the biggest reason for divorce
  • The effects of past heartbreaks and disappointments to both men and women and their future dating and relationships experiences

Things that made us go hmmm 

 From Troy:

“I disagree with a lot of experts or a lot of people in this genre that money is the number one reason for divorce.” – Troy Vaughan

“It takes more than one person giving 100% for a marriage to work.” – Troy Vaughan

“Men, we also have to endure heartbreaks, heartaches, and disappointments and so forth just like women.” – Troy Vaughan

“[In dating] They are still basing their decisions going forward on decisions they made in the past, not wanting to replicate the same consequences and same outcomes.” – Troy Vaughan


From Suzette:

“It’s not just because of my hips, my lips, and my fingertips. it’s because I bring something of substance that would be a value to any man of substance.” – Suzette Vearnon

“Would you even want to date you?” --Suzette Vearnon 

“There’s a difference between paying for something and making an investment.” – Suzette Vearnon

“You can’t change what someone is willing to pay for your time, effort, your wonderfulness. You can only affect the value you place on yourself.” -- Suzette Vearnon

“Worth is what somebody is willing to pay.” – Suzette Vearnon

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