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Hi, I'm Suzette Vearnon.  On December 27, 2014 on my 55th birthday, I did something my Inner Critic would not have predicted.  I got married to the most wonderful man.  It wasn't because I was perfect!  It was because I was me!  The same me who was told I was not enough at times and I was too much at others.  I struggled for most of my adulthood because of it.  Oh how I could have used someone who could unlock for me what was such a mystery, that I was enough.

That's why I'm so excited about this podcast.  I get to give to you what I didn't get.  And because of that, it won't take you 55 years to get it right!   But if it has, it's  not too late.  Let's make sure that you don't spend one more moment not knowing that you are worthy, you are worth it, you are enough!!

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E17: Removing the Stigma So You Can Enjoy Sex

Good girls don't, bad girls do?  Guess again!  Good girls talk about sex.  In fact, good girls want to enjoy sex too! This episode is all about sexual freedom a topic near and dear to our guest's heart. For Leah Carey spent 42 years mired in shame, laying on her back during intercourse, staring up at the proverbial ceiling waiting for it to be over.  She didn't know she could ask for what she wanted so she endured what she didn't want.

In this episode, you'll feel like you're at the table sipping wine with girlfriends Leah and Suzette as they have a candid conversation about:

  • stigmas surrounding enjoying sex and why they should be removed
  • the difference between a sexual communication coach, sex therapist and sex coach
  • things we don't want to admit to ourselves about our sexual desires
  • the limited and sometimes disingenuous information we've been fed about what normal sex looks like

...and much more

Things that made us go hmmm

From Leah:

“For me, sex, it was never about my pleasure. It was about fulfilling my partner's needs.”

“Oh, so what you're saying is that you can be a good girl and enjoy having sex?”

“How much energy do you end up expending by trying to cover up this really essential part of you?

"I hear from women and men there is some fear around looking at the places in their sex lives that don't work."

From Suzette:

“For a very long time, the reason I didn't know how to communicate what I wanted was because I wasn't in touch with my body. You don't know what makes you feel good.”

“And then you're afraid if you show you are having that good a time, the guy will go, 'Wait a minute. She's loose'."

“How do you ask for what you want without offending your man?”

References Mentioned:

About Leah

Leah Carey is a sexual communication coach who helps women learn to communicate about sex so they can get what they really want in the bedroom - rather than just accepting (tolerating) what they're given.  She is the creator and host of the podcast "Good Girls Talk About Sex."  Spending most of her life being a VERY good girl, sexual freedom is a subject that is deeply personal to Leah for most of the sex she had was either boring or painful. But she endured it because she wanted the cuddling that happened after.  She is now passionate about breaking the silence, fear and shame around women's sexuality and pleasure and redefining what it means to be a "good girl."

Enoughness Reminder

You are enough to have sex and to enjoy sex.  No stigma's.  No shame.  You were created to have sexual pleasure and to enjoy the having.

What were your aha moments? We'd love to hear them!

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