A MAN WILL NEVER HAVE A FEMALE REASON FOR WHAT HE DOES
I don't care how much sense it makes to you or your girlfriends or what momma and them told you. I don't even care how many relationship books you read or how many male-led this-is-how-to-get-a-man-to-love-you gatherings. If you only speak one language - FEMALE - you will misunderstand what he means and connect the dots in the wrong way.
It took me years of yo-yo analysis as I tossed and turned from one side of the bed to the other, trying to make sense of why he stopped doing what he use to and why I couldn't get him to do it anymore.
Look at how many woman hours get spent trying to figure him out! There's got to be a BETTER WAY!!!
Well, THERE IS!!!!
MY DO YOU SPEAK MALE PROGRAM TAKES THE GUESSWORK OUT OF UNDERSTANDING MEN
SO IF YOU WANT TO...
🙋🏽Stop tossing and turning all night trying to figure out why he did what he did
🙋🏽Stop being a magnet for men who aren't about anything
🙋🏽Stop guessing and start knowing what a man is really trying to tell you
🙋🏽Stop allowing the wrong men to waste your time and energy and the right one to get away.
Rather than trying to figure a man out on my own - a mentally exhausting task -I decided to put my woman hours to better use. I sought out good men who would tell me the unvarnished truth!
But here's why. [cue the violin, please]
After I married the same man twice...and divorced him twice...I realized that I didn't know ANYTHING except my experience with him. And like many women I know, I blamed him for EVERYTHING! That made my ego feel good for years. But after a while, I got tired of being a victim in my own story. I got tired of telling anyone who would listen how terrible he was and how trusting I was, nice I was, Christian I was. You get where I'm going with this, right? You see, being the victim wasn't who I wanted to be.
It was then that I realized that, in order not to be a victim, I had to learn something more than why he did what he did. I even had to learn more than why I put up with it for so long. Moving backward wasn't getting me anywhere. So, what could I put in front of me that was more compelling? That was the question I kept finding myself asking when something went wrong and I was tempted to blame him or to blame me. After a while, the lightbulb came on. I NEEDED TO UNDERSTAND MEN.
If I was EVER going to move forward powerfully, I needed to know what I didn't know about men.
And so I got busy, asking the right questions to good men. And I did something even more powerful: I LISTENED!!! I didn't judge it. I didn't refute it. I put my experience of men on the backburner. I put my opinions on the back burner. I put what I thought I knew, but obviously didn't, on the back burner. And I enrolled myself, fully, into man school.
What I noticed was quite astounding. Not only did I get the clarity I needed but I gained respect for men where before there had been fear, mistrust and intimidation.
I BECAME BILINGUAL!
The more I accepted men on their terms the more I understood their communication, their code, their culture, their context and their conduct.
Because of that, I'm able to help women--those like me and those who aren't like me but want to understand men better--communicate from a place of awareness, understanding and confidence.
Wouldn't you rather love more wisely?
I know this was rather lengthy. But I wanted you to understand that DO YOU SPEAK MALE is not about
- figuring out how to get him to do what you want.
- the demonization of men by a bitter woman who wants to get back at what one man did.
- finding the tools so you can outwit a man at his own game
It's not any of that.
My DO YOU SPEAK MALE Solution is born out of a deep desire to see women stay whole in their pursuit of real love and true partnership. And to give those battered from the ravages of an undignified relationship ending, the closure and clarity they need to heal and insights they need to love more wisely.
YOU'LL LEARN THE 5 C'S OF A MAN'S LANGUAGE
A COMPREHENSIVE TRAINING THAT TEACHES YOU WHAT DADDY DIDN'T TEACH AND MOMMA DIDN'T KNOW ABOUT HOW MEN COMMUNICATE AND WHAT HIS ACTIONS REALLY MEAN
Module One focuses on how men and women communicate differently, my husband-tested, husband-approved formula for communicating effectively with a man, navigating "the clash of wills" and how to communicate in a way that a man understands and helps you feel understood.
Module Two focuses on his set of principles that guides him and how it shows up in his relationships with women, navigating "the conflict of allegiances" effectively, when to accelerate the conversation and when to pull back, and how to determine his willingness to make your relationship a priority.
Module Three dives deeply into who a man identifies with and its impact on his intimate relationships, navigating "the conflict of identities" effectively, whom he's accountable to and identifying what anchors him.
Module Four helps you to see through his lens and his perspective on love and relationships, navigating "the conflict of viewpoints" effectively, his psychological needs and socialization and the "old school" man.
Module Five takes all the other components of communication, code, culture and context and applies them to his conduct. It compares and contrasts power and control, what men respect and why you aren't getting it, ways you've contributed to your relationship woes, narcissistic behaviors and the power all women have should she choose to develop it.
Here's what a past participant had to say...
What can I say about Ms. Suzette? I’ve never had counseling or coaching before and she made me realize how much I actually needed it. She made me see what I was actually doing wrong all these years. Here, I thought it was only the men I was dating. (Men are weird creatures) I’m constantly finding myself listening and remembering our sessions, being reminded of what I need to do when a particular situation would come up or if I meet a particular guy. Her wisdom and intuition has helped me tremendously and I absolutely recommend her. Our sessions would cause me to look inside myself in a way I never have. It feels good to know that there are things I can do to alleviate or mitigate some of my stressful interactions with men. I definitely feel like I’ve become a better person and can honestly say that I look forward to dating again. Thank you Suzette!