How great would you feel if you knew you were enough?
Made me feel like I wasn't alone, made me feel understood and that she had been through the same thing, got to the heart of the matter, challenged me to get honest about my relationship, her's wasn't the typical workshop, gave it to me straight but didn't make me feel bad, it would be hard for anybody else to convince me they could top her when it comes to "What is your enough factor?." These are all taken from testimonials from men and women who have consulted with me, read my books, been coached by me, listened to me speak, attended my workshops or were interviewed by me.
What makes their words significant is I have had the pleasure of witnessing their transformation. I have seen an overworked, underpaid woman with a dream of entrepreneurship gain the confidence to become 100% self employed. I have watched a highly motivated, smart woman paralyzed by fear overcome her fears and deliver a compelling speech to a large auditorium of women. Those are just two of many examples of women I have
been privileged to jumpstart, taking them from "Am I enough?" to owning their super power!
And of course, there is my story, the greatest testimonial of all!
"If you can Be your way through it, you will find your way to it."
I was born in 1959 to two God-fearing parents living in rural Eastern North Carolina. Despite their loving and sincere hearts and their devotion to their faith, home was not a happy place. My parents worked multiple jobs, leaving my 9-year-old sister in charge of me and my baby sister. My 3-year-old self remembers a soiled cloth diaper being thrust into my hands with a threat that if I didn't dunk it in the toilet I would get a whipping. I remember the soiled water splashing back onto me as I was barely tall enough to clear the toilet seat. My little 5-year-old self was so unhappy that I ran away from home. I remember thinking that nobody cared about me as I walked out the door. I had gone for several blocks and happened to pass by a man who knew my family. He talked me into going back home saying that my parents would be worried. When I tip-toed back inside, I discovered that no one even realized I was gone. That left a sting that I carried well into my adulthood.
When you feel like you don't matter, you don't know that you deserve better. As a result, you get talked out of your voice, your value and your vision. That's why I feel so passionately about this. I spent so much of my life feeling like the real me needed to be beat out, fussed out or prayed out. Codependency paraded around like a red flag in front of a bull and reduced me to chasing after those who wished to use me and rejecting those who really cared about me.
It's taken me 50 years to figure this out. But after years of struggle, getting help and rolling up my sleeves and doing the work, I have finally discovered what lies at the heart of every complaint, every dissatisfaction, and every desire. And because of it, you don't have to go through another day feeling powerless or not enough. It's this one thing. We all want to matter. We need
to matter. We need
to know that what we want, who we are, what we do matters. That's why I coach. And that's why I'm so effective at providing solutions. I've been given the grace to reclaim my own soul, my own life and to finally have the love I've dreamed of. And it is my purpose and my passion to help you to do the same.
Whether it's figuring out a way to leave the job you hate without going into the poor house in the process, getting your confidence back after multiple divorces or after unknowingly being married to a gay man, single parenting a son without emasculating him, reclaiming your youthful, healthy, sexy self at 50, not letting the statistics determine whether you find love or get married no matter the age, discovering what irrefutably makes you enough, or understanding why men behave as they do, I have unconventional solutions for your unconventional issues. Those who have sat with me for just 30 minutes can tell you, they left inspired, empowered and with more clarity than they could have imagined.