Does anyone out there remember when vinyl records were the norm? Did you ever try to listen to a song but all you could hear was crackling, popping and skipping? That’s the way a woman’s mind becomes when she keeps falling for the unavailable man.
She said all the Good Men were taken. This was based on the fact that she had 3 kids with 3 different men and none of them stayed. The youngest was 1 the oldest was 7 and she was only 24. The fact of the matter was she was a baby having babies with babies expecting them to magically become men. At the time she began looking for a man she had NO IDEA what a man was, and sadly she still doesn’t. If she was basing her idea of a man on what she thought at 17 she would forever be disappointed. As I explained to her the problem was not that they were no Good Men left out her the problem was she just didn’t know what a Good Man was.
It’s a familiar song. The problem is men, says women. The problem is women, says men. While your experience has value and every wound needs a witness, there is a part of this equation that is being overlooked. No matter how you add it up, you are an integral part of the equation.
You’ve got to lift the needle off that stuck spot on the record else you are doomed to keep repeating the same thing over and over again–different face but the same thing.
What’s the music that keeps on playing that keeps attracting you to a man who can’t commit, who can’t be responsible, who can’t love you the way you want to be? That’s the mindset that has to change so you can hear your voice, set your value and live your vision. You have to know you are enough.